How do I imply that children or other guests are not invited to my reception?
While meeting with brides for their invitation consultation I often get asked how do I keep children and extra guests from attending my wedding reception. I always advise that when you address the invitation envelopes do not write “and family” or the children’s names on the inside or outside envelope. On the outside envelope just write the guest names, for example Mr. and Mrs. Scott Brown. Then on the inner envelope you would list the same thing again or if you know them well enough to call them by their first names then list their first names. It is acceptable to list just first names on the inside envelope or however you would speak to them. If your Grandmother is Mrs. Katherine Goodman then on her inside envelope you may just write Grandma. To recap, only write the person’s names you are inviting and the recipient should get the message when they see this of who is invited.
Now unfortunately, some guests still don’t get this and they will go ahead and R.S.V.P. for more than you are expecting. In this case when you see a larger number on the R.S.V.P. card than planned for you will need to politely call them and tell them that you can’t accommodate the extra guests because of the cost and you don’t have the space. I would appoint you Mother or Bridesmaid to handle this task for you so you won’t feel awkward. You may have hired the services of a wedding planner then you can ask them to make that call for you. An R.S.V.P service may be included in the package from your wedding planner so they may already be handling this so you won’t have to worry about it!
-Tracie Morris, certified wedding planner